Life Changing Events and Processes

Today I got a call from a student who took one of my NLP Trainings when I used to offer it with Judy Pearson. She had been searching for me and wanted to just reach out to tell me that our training was the single most impactful thing in her life during a very tough time for her. It was so nice to hear from her and to know that she took control of her life and mind and manifested her dreams.

Today I want to just share some things that I think you may find useful. In my conversation with her, I asked her what were the most impactful things that made the biggest impact in her life. I like to ask this because just as each trainer teaches the same topics differently – the students also learn differently. That is why when you are in a different state of mind and you listen or watch the same thing, you may get or notice different things. Before I became a Master NLP Practitioner and Trainer I took trainings from some of the top trainers in NLP as well as not so “famous” ones. And each time I absorbed so much because NLP is not about learning but the experience you have! You can read books, you can listen to things but it is not until you do it, do you truly understand and experience it. And this also brings the importance of who you are experiencing the process with. Different people that are in the trainings, their energies, their curiosity, their skepticism, their potential mental and emotional states, will impact how they learn and also how they help others learn.

Getting back to the client, I wanted to understand top “experiences” that have helped her even to this date. She was so excited to tell me that she thinks about the exercises and some “things” that I had done with her and some exercises that she still uses daily today and even teaches to her kids. I was excited to hear about it all. Knowing you have made such an impact on someone’s life is an amazing feeling. I was so happy and curious at the same time.

SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT LESSON - THAT CHANGED HER LIFE

She stated that the single most important lesson she had learned was to focus on the “END RESULT” we want to achieve – no matter what the topic is, in NLP we shift focus to the “END RESULT” you want to achieve. This may be a specific mental or emotional state but in our trainings, we always took it another level which no one else does or did at the time – an expanded NLP into Quantum Physics and Manifesting.  This training had a bunch of things we threw in there that was made it very interesting, but that is another story. For now, I was curious about how specifically, it had impacted her. She started off by saying she had been going through stress with school, with relationships, even with her parents at the time. She was in our training because she really wanted to learn how to deal with some of the issues she was having during that time. She felt frustrated, lost and confused about her future.

• “ I was in such a lost, frustrated time in my life and I had everything around me adding stress and frustrating daily. My relationships, my future, my classes were all up in the air and I felt like I was out of control with a lot things in my life. I was searching for anything to help me understand how to deal with the stress and emotions”
• I remember you sharing some of those during our sessions. It was a big step to open up and share it in front of others.
• Yes, and I don’t like to share things but I was in such a state that even talking about it made me feel better. Honestly, talking about it infront of strangers – at least at that time – was ok, because they didn’t know me. I think I felt like this was my last attempt at trying to get myself to be a better place.
• So what was the biggest shift during that time? Do you remember which exercise or process helped you the most?
• The first day when you had us leave and enter the classroom in a different mindset. This was a weird thing at the time and I don’t think I really did it to tell you honestly but I did feel like the energy shifted. I can’t really explain it but just doing that and sitting back in the same place, I felt the energy in the room. At that time, I just noticed. I honestly don’t think I did what we were supposed to do but I remember the next day, I did- and I noticed more and more I did, the stronger I felt the stress and energies left outside the door. And I do this every day. I put the twist on it to match my mental, emotional state and what I want to walk into.
• Great to hear!
• I think the biggest impact you had made me realize was the “END RESULT” and always focusing on the END RESULT no matter what. I had been through therapy prior to coming to your session and when you compared “Therapy vs NLP” – I realized how much time and money I had wasted, yet alone not getting out of the shit because we rehashed it every time. I can honestly tell you that day, that single day was probably the most important day in my life. I realized what I was doing and Not doing and the people that were trying to help me were not helping me at all. On that day, I think I became one of your biggest fans! Lol I felt like that one process, one exercise shifted my entire outlook in my life, in my relationships, in my future! Today, when I have to deal with my students, my kids, my work… basically everything – I focus on the “What do I want the end result to be” and I always start from there.  When my kids come to me and they are fighting or they want something, I always ask them “ what do you want instead?” and we work backwards from there. I still remember when we did the coaching session! I think I still have those write ups in a box as a matter of fact. I sat there and I realized no one had asked me what it is that I really want. I had a hard time if you remember, I had a very hard time outlining exactly what I wanted instead. It was as if I had never thought about it. It was a very strange process for me. But that single day, when you guided me through the questions of what I don’t want, what I struggle with and then outlining the opposite of those for me… was a great baby step for me. I don’t know if you remember but that was such a great way for me to start pouring my emotions, my energies out. When I got home that day, I felt so different. I can’t even tell you but I clearly remember that something in me had shifted! Maybe it was your hypnosis session lol, but I had definitely “shifted”. I knew that day, the training was EXACTLY what I needed and I knew I had to follow the process with all my heart and mind and give it 1000% to really embody the materials.   To this day, I start with the end result! I can tell you I do that with everything! My relationships, my work, my kids, my goals… I even do the Golden Circle exercise! I think that was the most impactful for me. The other thing was the Language Patterns – How I chose to pick my words, what I was saying to myself as well as noticing other people’s language patterns and understanding their state of mind. This was a huge eye opening experience for me along with the EYE Cues, Body Language Analysis.. Over the years, I notice I have gotten so good at it because I practiced so much. I still do some fun exercises with my kids sometimes with following people around and imitating their body language. I know there were so many other things but I think those were the biggest hits besides understanding and KNOWING – actually KNOWING – that I AM IN CONTROL!
• Excellent I am so happy for you. I am so grateful that you decided to call me and tell me about this because as you know, I don’t teach it anymore. But I am in the process of putting trainings online and sharing my knowledge and skills with the world or I should say with those who seek it. This is such a great sign for me that you called at this time to tell me this.. I can’t tell you the importance and significance of this call! I want to THANK YOU!!
• I can tel you that my life has never been the same. I realized and learned so much from you and Judy. Something pushed me to find you to tell you. Maybe it was because you needed to hear it at this time. I am truly so grateful. I use those techniques all the time and from time to time I remember other things, but your trainings changed my life. I will forever be grateful. I am now thinking about teaching some of this to others.  Maybe I can pick your brain?
• Anytime! Of course! I am so happy and so Thankful that you called!
• Seeds of change – right!
• Yes!
• Time to Plant more seeds in others
• Absolutely!

IT WAS A MESSAGE FOR ME!

So I wanted to write a blog about this because it came in such an amazing time as my life has shifted. We are in the transition period and I always ask for signs and guidance from higher spirits and God. This was a confirmation for me to share my knowledge and skills.

STARTING WITH THE END RESULT

Today, I will be working on my “END RESULT” and sometimes we don’t really know what that END RESULT should be or our GOALS. It is OK not to know. Sometimes it is the process of discovering what it is that really makes us Happy. Sometimes we need to experience different things to get to where we should be.  Taking some time to think about what you do LOVE, what makes you HAPPY, what EXCITES you, is a great step. Often times, we put Limiting Beliefs or Roadblocks in front of things. I would love to do this or be that but I can’t because….. ( you can fill in all sorts of limiting beliefs here!!!) such as I don’t have enough money, I am not tall enough, smart enough, strong enough, young/old enough, I don’t have money, I don’t have a degree… can you add in your limiting beliefs here…  

But we admire the people that have found a way to overcome these kinds of limitations and still found a way to achieve their Goals. They become heros!

Do a single Shift – Instead of asking :
- “Can I do this, Should I do this” – change your language pattern to “HOW – How can I do this” – shift the mental process! Do you notice the difference when you ask these questions? What do you notice?

I always tell my son – If you ask me if you can play video games after your homework, you will get a Yes or a No – a 50/50 chance! But if you change what you ask me to “HOW can I play video games today” – it automatically shifts it to an Assumption that you can Play video games but you need to know HOW, what do you need to do to make it happen. See the difference?

This is the same process in your mind. If you want something – Say you want to attend college but you don’t have the resources, ask yourself “How can I attend college even if I don’t have the money right now” – see and notice the shift. Then the universe/God/Quantum field/Subconscious mind, starts to work it’s magic. Your subconscious starts to look for ways to make it happen… putting energy out into the quantum field… search beacons.. next you will start to notice things, grants that may be available etc. This of course depends on how badly you want it. We call this “Reticular Activation”. Once you implant something into your mind – both consciously and subconsciously – you will start to notice. For example, if you are looking to buy a new JEEP, you all the sudden notice all the Jeeps, all the Jeep dealers that you hadn’t noticed before. This works the same way with your goals and desires! If you are looking for opportunities in something, put the seeds into your mind, have it activate your mind/body and spirit to bring you the answers ..

Remember, all our wants/goals and desires change as we experience things in life. You didn’t have the same beliefs as you did when you were younger. As we get older, as we achieve some goals, our new goals take place, new belief systems take place. If you have had issues with your health, your goals may have shifted to health. Our feelings, beliefs, experiences change. Some deep rooted ones may still hide in there. NLP and/or Hypnosis finds a way to extract those limited beliefs so you don’t have anchors holding you back.

If you have read this – there was a reason! I hope you realize that YOU HAVE MORE POWER than you realize!

OUTLINE YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS 

You can CHANGE your life starting right now by doing simple things. Notice what you say to yourself and others, outline limiting beliefs and fears and outline what you would like to replace those with. Do it now. Take a piece of paper and outline all the beliefs you may have about your life, financial status, your health, your mental state, your feelings, your relationships, your work etc. This is a very powerful exercise that I even do during different times. I tell my kids not to put Limits on their thinking. If you want to do something, start to ask yourself HOW. What is stopping me right now from doing it? Outline it. ( I don’t have…, I am not…) Then shift to HOW.. How can I…

Start to put those seeds in your mind as if you already have it. Step into a version of yourself that already has those goals accomplished – see how that version of you feels, is, walks, talks, etc… and daily, pull that version of you over yourself until you shift your energy so you are… Embody those feelings. You will change your world, you will start to manifest. Just TRY it.. Notice how your energies shift, how you start to feel..

IF I ONLY HAD A SPECIAL SOMEONE IN MY LIFE …….
 I NEED SOMEONE IN MY LIFE TO FEEL....

Sometimes we think we need something in order to feel a certain way – a lot of times this can be a “person” that is going to make you happy. It is hard for people how feel sad or lonely to get to a certain state because they feel like it can only happen with another person. But what if.. what if you pretended that person is always in your life.. you can create a make belief person you go to sleep with. You have around. Feel those feelings now, embody those feelings.. Be Happy, Be in Love.. and see how this shift starts to manifest and attract the person who would be attracted to that energy. Remember RESONATION – when one tuning fork is hit the other will vibrate/attract that is the same tune! So start to TUNE your Love and Attract the person that has that TUNE. Imagine how specifically you will FEEL – remember that feeling is the key!

IF I ONLY HAD MONEY ……. 

This is a common belief. We think we are limited by not having resources. We had one person who attended our manifestation class who stated she had to manifest money! Here is a quick outline of the conversation..

• I want to Manifest Money
• Why do you want/need to manifest money?
• So I can do the things I want and have the things I want
• What specific things are coming up when you say those words? What is the biggest thing you want or you THINK you can’t have because you don’t have enough money?
• I want a Big House
• So if I told you you can have a BIG HOUSE without Money would that be ok?
• Yes But I still need more money..
• OK What else do you need money for?
• I want to Help my family.
• What specific things come to your mind when you say those words ( I saw her start to get emotional)
• I want to be able to bring my family together in a big home.
• So tell me what that would look like if you had all the money?
• I would have my family over at my house. We would have cookouts, we would laugh. Everyone would be happy because we wouldn’t be stressing out over money.
• So you have to have money in order to “invite your family over to your house, have cookouts, laugh and have a good time and be happy?”
• Well no.. but my house isn’t big enough… and…. ( Then she started to realize..)
• SO how about.. if you MANIFEST those FEELINGS of having your family together, everyone having fun and laughing, being Happy and leave it up to the Universe on how this happens? Maybe you don’t need a House? Maybe you don’t need to have a lot of money to have those happen? Would you want to manifest this even if you don't have money? 

A this point she was emotional – she had realized that she can bring her family together. She can help them forge their stress and she shouldn’t limit that process to having enough money.

I am not saying you don’t need to manifest money but I encourage people to understand WHAT it is that they TRULY want to manifest. Allow the universe to manifest those without putting the HOW! Give that power to the universe and be curious on how it will unfold it for you.

Sometimes opportunities will come, sometimes events will happen, sometimes you realize it is not really what you want – and sometimes you reach your goals to find out it wasn’t what you thought it was. We learn from our manifestations. You learn to tweak them. You learn what works for you. You learn the power you have and how you can utilize your powers if you just let go of certain things..

ONGOING PROCESS... MAKE IT FUN! EXPERIEMENT!

This is always an ongoing process. Remember that we are always learning as we move through our lives. We will have different wants and needs! We will change our beliefs, wants and desires. This is life. Enjoy it! Practice your power. Notice how the universe responds. Notice how you feel, what you say, what you do… notice the “messages” and “signs”. Thank the Universe/God of your choice/Spirits whatever you believe in that makes this possible! BE Grateful, Be Thankful and Choose to be the person you want to be. Do it today.. don’t wait till you have something or do something or accomplish something.. Don’t wait for money or someone else… BE Happy NOW – Act it, Embody it! BE it NOW.. – Just practice this and see how it shifts you, your life and your manifestations!

Write me and let me know if this has helped you or post a comment! I wish you fun experiences with your manifestations! Remember we are always manifesting, so if there are things in your life you are not happy about, they are because of your current beliefs.. change them and you will change your life. 🙂